Create a more positive life

Why do we continue to behave in ways that have a negative impact on our health, relationships, work and life in general?

It helps to understand that our default or automatic behaviours are forged in well worn paths through our brain. For us to learn and create mastery in anything - talking, walking, reading etc, our repetitions, emotions and thoughts create a sequence of neurons firing. This neural firing sends messages to the body to respond instantly without requiring our thought processes. This is great when we are reading and no longer need to think about each word, but makes it have to "control" challenging behaviours from occurring.

Fortunately, modern science has shown that we can use meditation and practice to redirect the negative pathways to forge more positive pathways.

Defensive or challenging behaviours that negatively impact our lives in relationships and work can feel hard to manage or change. These behaviours can include: 

• aggressive like anger and frustration or 
• passive like anxiety and helplessness to 
• over compensatory like self-promoting or obnoxious.  

These all stem from our emotional learning through past experiences that created deep neural pathways that became automatic. Using specific techniques, we can review these emotional learnings to create a new healthier neural pathways and with practice lead to automatic responses of positive social behaviours. Leading to safer and more positive relationships.

Struggling to influence or work well with others in the work place? Do you find yourself in challenging discussions or relationships with bosses, colleagues, direct reports or clients? Or find that you are unable to "control" your team  or get the results your wish to achieve? Do you feel you are not recognised for your efforts, achievements and hard work?

Or are you struggling to find your passion or maintain focus and drive?

Using mindful meditation techniques we can develop behaviours to advance more successful and rewarding careers and work relationships, built on accountability and  authenticity. Find more creativity.

By better understanding how our thoughts  and actions developed, we can forge new neural pathways for more constructive and beneficial behavioural patterns.

Children are the most wonderful human beings filled with wonder, love, and non-judgment. Being a parent can be joyful and also exhausting physically and mentally. 

Often we parent from how we were parented with mixed results. Compounded by differing approaches and ideas between us and our partners. This can feel overwhelming and lead to a disruptive relationships with our children, partners, other family and friends. 

Help is at hand!

Learning to adopt a more compassionate parenting style based in guidance and empathy, our children can become respectful, kind and thoughtful in their behaviours, we can establish healthy boundaries and rebuild loving relationships with our children in weeks. 

Emotional regulation is the ability to effectively manage and respond to an emotional experience or situation. It is the foundation to leading a more calm, positive and healthy life. Many of us may respond well in certain situations, however, other circumstances are triggering leading to negative responses by way of actions and thoughts. In today's society, we are more busy, stressed and socially isolated, making emotional regulation more challenging at times - just think of your daily commute - horns blowing, strong words and physical altercations. Fortunately, our emotions form part of our neural pathways that can be "re-programmed" through meditation and practice for strong emotional regulation.

Self-compassion is fundamental to our mental and physical wellbeing. Being able to provide compassion for ourselves in times of perceived wrongs, failure, inadequacy or suffering, enables us to understand situations and make positive decisions and actions. We are human, so self-compassion helps us see our humanity with awareness, perspective and non-judgement and then also in others. When we can allow self kindness and bring curiosity, we are able to forgive ourselves and others. 

Everyone has flaws, limitations and imperfections which makes us part of the common humanity, letting us see ourselves feel connected and not alone. This self-compassion enables us to feel empathy for others and provide connection and compassion.